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by Admin on 1/8/2009, 11:02 am
Hi All~
I posted something similar on another site and felt compelled to thank everyone here too!
As a man who was
involved for almost 4 years, I too sort of felt lost. After D-Day, I
started getting the sense that "this was how it was always going to be!"
I
worked on me for a change. I stopped hanging with the people that
embraced my affair. I started hanging out with people who were on a
path of healthy.
I started writing down my goals and reading
them as if they were the script of my life (BTW, I highly recommend
scripting, it does work!)
And then I just stopped...I stopped with all the crap I endured and I started tossing out stuff that reminded me of her...
I
don't hate MW..she did what she had to do in order to survive in her
marriage, and I enabled it! I did not even hate me at this point..I
just wanted ME back again!
And then I scripted for a healthy
relationship...specifically and EXACTLY what I wanted....I worked on
becoming the person I wanted and needed to be for a relationship to
happen...a HEALTHY relationship...and it did happen.
Do I
sometimes have chatter about MW...heck yes...that's normal for someone
that you care(d) about....sometimes, well it used to be sometimes, i
would get the chatter in my head about MW that was so loud, I swear
other people could hear it.
And slowly, I got healthy. It took
me two years of working hard on myself. 2 years of posting on sites,
making sites, talking with people who got in it and could not get
out...2 years of wondering if I would EVER have the strength to stand
up and be a man!
And I did it...and my reward is not having that
pain anymore. My reward is feeling strength even in my moments of
weakness. My reward are the countless thank yous I got for helping
others in the same boat.
I feel stronger and healthier...yet, I
know that I could fall back in sheer moments of weakness and that is
why I work on my recovery every day.
You will feel strength and
solace and wonder where the hell you've been while you were in the
affair...welcome to PEACEVILLE!!! It's a great place to be...and thank
you for your inspiration!
I posted something similar on another site and felt compelled to thank everyone here too!
As a man who was
involved for almost 4 years, I too sort of felt lost. After D-Day, I
started getting the sense that "this was how it was always going to be!"
I
worked on me for a change. I stopped hanging with the people that
embraced my affair. I started hanging out with people who were on a
path of healthy.
I started writing down my goals and reading
them as if they were the script of my life (BTW, I highly recommend
scripting, it does work!)
And then I just stopped...I stopped with all the crap I endured and I started tossing out stuff that reminded me of her...
I
don't hate MW..she did what she had to do in order to survive in her
marriage, and I enabled it! I did not even hate me at this point..I
just wanted ME back again!
And then I scripted for a healthy
relationship...specifically and EXACTLY what I wanted....I worked on
becoming the person I wanted and needed to be for a relationship to
happen...a HEALTHY relationship...and it did happen.
Do I
sometimes have chatter about MW...heck yes...that's normal for someone
that you care(d) about....sometimes, well it used to be sometimes, i
would get the chatter in my head about MW that was so loud, I swear
other people could hear it.
And slowly, I got healthy. It took
me two years of working hard on myself. 2 years of posting on sites,
making sites, talking with people who got in it and could not get
out...2 years of wondering if I would EVER have the strength to stand
up and be a man!
And I did it...and my reward is not having that
pain anymore. My reward is feeling strength even in my moments of
weakness. My reward are the countless thank yous I got for helping
others in the same boat.
I feel stronger and healthier...yet, I
know that I could fall back in sheer moments of weakness and that is
why I work on my recovery every day.
You will feel strength and
solace and wonder where the hell you've been while you were in the
affair...welcome to PEACEVILLE!!! It's a great place to be...and thank
you for your inspiration!
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Single Dad: Father of two amazing kids
Admin- Admin
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Registration date: 2007-12-01 
Re: THANK YOU
by Mandy on 1/8/2009, 3:27 pm
God Bless you, SD!
I hear you loud and clear! Good Job!
Go you!
love and hugs,
Mandy
I hear you loud and clear! Good Job!
Go you!
love and hugs,
Mandy
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Registration date: 2007-12-06 -
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